You are not a hostage
Pause, take a moment to reflect on one thing that is currently a big trigger for you. Some situation, circumstance, or person pushing your buttons and causing anger or grief in you. Keeping that person or situation in mind read on….
What is the dominant thought that is coming up?
some examples could be he/she should not have, It's so unfair, why did it happen to me, I don't deserve this. Why do people treat me this way? Why does it keep happening to me? Why does no one understand me? Why am I so unlucky? I cannot deal with their skewed way of looking at things anymore. There is absolutely no regard for my well-being or respect.
It might be very uncomfortable to believe at first but whatever we experience in this world is a projection of our inner state of being. Our true nature is peaceful and joy full. That is why we continue to gravitate toward anything that makes us happy. As our life experiences happened we gathered a lot of beliefs ingrained by others or by the way we interpreted life situations. Those beliefs protected us then. But unfortunately, we started viewing everything through the lens of those beliefs without ever questioning their truth and that's how we created our stories, that's how we continue to create our world so
what we see outside is a reflection of what needs to be seen inside.
Shakespeare said that -All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players; this world is a stage and we are mere actors playing out our parts.
I look at it differently. We are the producers, directors, and actors of our own story.
Facts or situations over which we have little or no control at the present time are an accumulation of thoughts created and projected over the past many days/months/ years.
When living “unaware” of our negative beliefs we create a web of situations, people, and circumstances that are a reflection of our own thoughts. If we are amidst a lot of superficialities that's a projection of losing our own authenticity, a sign that we might be driven by what the world wants to see rather than what we want to be.
“People are so fake” actually means that you are not in touch with your own truth so others seem fake. “She doesn't care for her children as she should” means that you believe you are not doing a good enough job raising your kids.
Everything that you judge others for is a reflection of your feelings toward yourself; you’re holding others to the standards you’ve created internally.
Anything that triggers you outside reflects the ”thought movie” you are screening inside your head. It is hard to accept this truth, as victimhood was ingrained in us very deeply.
My parents should have raised me like this…….
My friend should have treated me like this……
My boss should have understood and supported me better……
My In-Laws should have understood……
My husband should have made an effort to………
No situation, circumstance, or person changing will bring any peace to you. Unless change happens internally, this same pattern of projection will keep reappearing. It can end only when you look at the trigger in the eye, feel all the emotions, strip them and face the belief from which the thinking is originating. Rewriting the belief that brings you unhappiness is the only way that thought patterns can be changed.
The negative story pattern created by you can be erased and replaced with a helpful positive belief.
Taking 100% responsibility for our life and happiness is the first step to leading a fulfilling life. No one else can be blamed or held responsible for our unhappiness. Victimhood, just like all addictions, can be a temporary bandage but cannot bring lasting joy.
Life is meant to be an expression of your unique individual being, there is nothing to prove or become. Think of a rose. it blooms in its magnificence, unaffected by any admiration or disgust it might receive. It just blooms.
The farther you move away from expressing your true nature, the more layers of drama you create around you. You continue to project the thoughts and beliefs ingrained in you by society into the world around you. Other people's situations and circumstances continue to trigger you, pushing you into victimhood. !
You are no longer a hostage to how others treat you but a master of your own world!
Love always,
Anu ❤️🦋
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