Self Care
“I’m so inconsistent!”
I always start with gusto, my intention is set- to be disciplined and finish what I start.
But somehow I can never finish what I start, or stick to my goals for too long. Remember that Yoga class, that cleanse, that workout, that diet plan, that decision to dress nicely everyday, that smoothie you were going to make for yourself for breakfast…all those promises you make to yourself but somehow never keep.
If that is YOU, my friend, you are not alone. Most of us multitasking women suffer from this guilt.
Have you ever realized that your family is always, fed, clothed and taken care of under your watch?
(Beating yourself up over not doing a “good enough job” is a different story we’ll talk about in a different blog!)
Have you noticed that if any of your family members is sick, you drop everything and devote yourself to their care?
Have you observed that when it comes to driving your kids for all their activities, you are always there? Somehow you have planned your life in such a way that in those 30 minutes you get between dropping and picking them up you squeeze in a grocery run!
Have you seen yourself show up for a friend when they need you? Dropping off food for them, taking their kids places when they’re sick, inviting their parents over when they are visiting, or just listening to them for hours when they wants to vent.
I could keep reminding you, but you get the picture. You have been taking care of people around you so CONSISTENTLY! Maybe you dropped the ball a few times, but that’s okay. Think of the big picture.
So we can conclude that you are perfectly capable of being consistent. You are inconsistent only when it comes to doing things for
yourself
So why do you do this to yourself? Great question.
In my experience, I chalk it up to the cultural and social conditioning that self sacrifice is a valuable virtue. If you put your needs and wants before others you are selfish, and selfish people are very bad. You don’t want to be a bad person because no one likes bad people…so, you want people to like you.
Guess what? People are not living your life. In fact, they are struggling with the same issues you are. They want YOU to like them!
Now imagine if you were able to finish what you start, do what you want, and bring joy and ease into your days, life, and relationships. How would that feel, my multitasking friend?
By doing that, you might even inspire people around you to listen to themselves and not worry about what you or others think about them. Wouldn’t that be a beautiful stress free world!
So what is that small thing you are going to do for yourself today? Maybe make that cup of tea, put on your favorite music, and watch the clouds drift by…..you deserve those 15 minutes to nourish your soul.
Want to continue this conversation? I’d love to hear from you, leave me a comment.
